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Philosophy Tuesday

November 11, 2014

This is a philosophical statement. It is intended to spark thinking and examining.

“Positive emotions, such as compassion and patience, are teachable skills;
and the way we think directly influences our experience of the world.”

— Sam Harris

It is remarkable how much we, as a culture, invest in the fitness of the body and how little, by and large, in the fitness of the spirit and the psyche. (from BrainPickings)

In my experience, it seems much easier to tell someone where to improve their tennis game, or that that their driving is terrible, than to invite them to look at something that could empower, ease suffering, and enable growth.

I’d wager that how we deal with life and the world has become linked with our societal image and shame (a la Brené Brown), as though we are (magically) supposed to “have it all together” and it is somehow shameful if we aren’t dealing with life as elegantly as we might.

Either way, it is kinda odd, eh?

2 comments

  1. This reminds me of an article I read the other day about one of the major things that helps a relationship last longer; psychologists interviewed a sampling of couples six years apart, trying to find the differences between the ones that lasted (“relationship masters”) and the ones that were chronically unhappy or ended altogether (“relationship disasters”).

    What he found is that there are very small, frequent interactions that go completely differently. When one partner makes a “bid” for attention (“Hey, look at that bird over there.”), the partner in a happy relationship would engage, or “pay out” with attention and encouragement in “master” couples. With disaster couples, the bid was either given minimal attention, ignored, or answered with hostility in the worst cases (“Don’t bother me, I’m trying to read.”)

    It really struck me that there is a measurable difference in relationships where kindness and engagement are important to the couples. It can take work to be kind and compassionate, but it’s absolutely worth it — relationships live and die on the small things we do every day to support or kill them.


    • Aye, well stated. Developing ourselves may be confronting, and it may take time and effort, but the results are fantastic. }:)



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