Philosophy Tuesday

June 30, 2015

This is a philosophical statement.  It is intended to spark thinking and examining.

Blame is an interesting thing.

When we blame someone, or something, we get a charge out of it, don’t we?  Ahhh, we feel right, we feel potent, we feel “better.”

But something interesting happens neurologically…

When we blame, our brain shuts down.  Clicks off.  Because blame is, by its nature, external to us.  We remove ourselves from the process that led to the result.  And since we’re not there, we cannot be part of altering it.  Our brain stops trying to be with it, work with it, figure it out.  We devolve ourselves of all responsibility, and therefore, of all agency.

We lose power in having an impact in the situation.

It’s a delicious irony, really, that disconnect between how it makes us feel, all puffed up and right, and the impact it has, solidifying the very situation we are unhappy about.  How gruarh! we feel and how much more stuck it leaves us.  Thus leading to more unhappy results and situations, thus readily leading to more blame as a way to discharge the suffering and unhappiness.

A rather vicious cycle.

The antidote is to take responsibility.  Not blame, but responsibility.  Reclaim the agency.  We can’t always make something go exactly as we want it to, but we can always have a say in how it goes.

And with that, suffering diminishes and possibilities open up.


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  3. […] Firstly, we tend to collapse breaking a promise with being a bad person.  It’s quite similar to the way we have collapsed the notion of being responsible with the idea of blame. […]

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