This is a philosophical post, intended to spark thinking and examining.
Often, things are talked about like they are a light switch.
Either on, or off.
With each side paired off against the other:
You’re either an introvert or an extrovert.
You should always be assertive, otherwise you will be a pushover.
All boys should act and are like X. All girls should act and are like Y.
You either have to be a complete shut in, or be a wild exhibitionist.
You must follow this precept, else be cast forever in sin.
You’re either with us, or against us.
It’s all you are/it is X or Y.
Whole worlds of divisions.
Light on. Or light off.
Here’s the thing about lights, though.
They have things called dimmers.
Gradients are possible (and normal).