This is a philosophical statement. It is intended to spark thinking and examining.
Our lives are full of inflection points.
Life happens. Things happen.
When something happens to us, or around us, we get very active.
We make decisions about things.
These are powerful decisions.
They form statements, certainties, declarations.
They shape our view of the world and of reality.
In effect, they are reality.
We have little distinction otherwise. They are the truth.
We therefore act and behave in a way that is fully consistent with that reality.
We touched a hot stove and we got burned: hot stoves are bad to touch.
Now we no longer touch a hot stove, and we’re even cautious around something that looks hot.
That’s pretty clear. That makes sense.
We made a mistake on an art project as a kid and we didn’t do it right and kids laughed: we are not good at art.
Now we no longer try to do art, and we avoid being creative.
Hmm. Less clear.
“I suck at art.” That’s one possible interpretation.
So we stopped practicing art, we avoided art, we never practiced, we don’t do it.
Today, if we try to create some art, sure enough, we continue to suck at it!
So much proof now…
Blam. An inflection point that set our course of life.
What happened was that we made a mistake. That happened. Plain and simple.
Nothing more. Nothing less.*
That inflection point, however…
That was us. All us.
Not the mistake. The inflection was us.
We made the decision.
A decision that influenced our view, our experience, our capabilities, and reality.
“I suck at art.” That’s one possible interpretation. But only one of a million possible interpretations.
And for all these years, we’ve been living the decision we ourselves made.
We can return to that moment and re-evaluate things. Choose a different interpretation.
We can re-inflect.
We can refresh ourselves back to that point, clear the canvas, and start anew.
We gain freedom. We can create.
We can transform, build forward, develop abilities, and become who we want to be. **
* And what is a mistake anyway? Who defined the failure? In the arts (including life, which is an art), what is really a mistake? Or error? Or failure? Or good? Or bad? Who sa(ys)(aid)?
** This does not mean new skills and abilities will miraculously appear***. It will not wipe out 40 years of not practicing, developing, learning… the work still needs to be done. But it’s work that now can be done. The barriers have been removed, the road is now clear. And, inside of that clarity, the speed at which the skill develops can be fast indeed.
*** And sometimes it will feel as though new abilities have miraculously appeared. Freed of the constraints the decision and the resulting inflection imposed on your life, inside of that new freedom, new capacities of performance for existing skills get blown wide open.**** The true extent of your skill can fully be expressed.
**** This includes interactions, conflicts, relationships, courage, conversation, perseverance, productivity, excitement, wonder, compassion, empathy, creativity, joy, peace of mind…