What we really want is often hindered by “I can’t get/have it.”

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So we focus on other things that are “not right.”

We fixate on all the wrongs,

As a way of surviving a world where “what I want is not possible.”

We blame, we martyr, we loathe.

And we take all those other things,

And make them part of our identity.

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If we can’t get what we want,

Then we react to it,

Often in an angry or forceful or violent way.

We try to gain agency any way we can.

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Assholism generally comes from feeling thwarted.