It is not a matter of either/or. It is not a matter of rational versus emotional. For is not that one is bad and the other good. They are not the antithesis of each other. True, that is often how we do present them: pitted against each other, one scorned, the other lauded.
But we are human. Awesomeness and capability come from integration. Not separation. It is about being knowledge intelligent as well as emotionally intelligent. For without the two holding hands in tandem we are all too easily led astray.
Remember – we can rationalize anything. Our consciousness and awareness come to us already pre-filtered. Without integration, we don’t realize when we’ve been hooked and we hoodwink ourselves into beliefs and actions that, while we are ready to viciously defend them, are unproductive and even counter to that which we profess. Sometimes even beliefs and actions that run counter to the very logic altar at which we claim we worship.
Remember – we can feel anything. All sorts of things. And that emotions and feelings come and go. And that is great. It is a delicious part of being human. Without them we wouldn’t feel joy, delight, wonder, gratitude, happiness, fulfillment, satisfaction, lust, love… Even better, shaped by our past, in any given moment emotions also provide to us valuable signals. They are an indicator that something’s up. That we might want to pay attention. It is a signal, however, that can get very intense. Without integration, if we give them full control of the wheel, it can lead to some pretty wild driving indeed. Fishtails, spinouts, burnouts, and crashes easily follow.
With that we can step into the practice of integration. Intertwining. Letting our knowledge intelligence, emotional intelligence, social intelligence, and indeed all of our various intelligences speak to each other, collaborate, and operate together. And together, in harmony, choosing the best mode to be in the moment, giving us being and actions that move us forward in the best of ways.
And to cap it off, we get to enjoy it all.
(I still blame Descartes…)