It is often said that “change is hard” but… I’m not really sure that’s the accurate or complete picture.
Instead, I’d say that a good chunk is really about our attachments.* For when we go to change, we often need to chainsaw our attachments, and that is what can be hard.
Except… that’s not exactly accurate either! For while it feels like we need to break out the chainsaw, instead, once we realize we have an attachment we can choose to just let it go. We can choose to stop clinging to it. Then, even attachments become more facile to let go of!
And in letting go of our attachments, we shift from change resistance to one of flow, where we can begin to dance gracefully within the vortices of life. All while bringing with us mindfulness and practice to continually watch for automatically falling back into habit (something that, compared to change, is really easy to do), interrupt it, create who we want to be, and act.
* The other big chunk is about shame.**
** I might also say our identity, but identity often is a combo of attachments, shame, and habit, not to mention that often what we are trying to ‘change’ is a part of our identity… (though really here it’s more effective through transformation***)
*** Which is what makes transformation so powerful and effective, is that it bypasses these change bits altogether.