Often, we find ourselves trapped within a game. A game that we didn’t choose.
A game that we, mostly, are never even aware that we are playing.
Yet we play it and play it hard, every day, every moment of every day, in a vain hope to ‘win’.
So that we can look good to others.
So that we can appear tough, talented, intelligent, sophisticated, successful, big, powerful, capable, prosperous, neat, independent, influential, cool, manly or womanly…
All so that can be thought of well by others, looked upon with accepting eyes, and, ultimately, we hope, be worthy of love and belonging.
The funny thing is, that all this effort and energy and time lost and impediments to our self-expression and freedom and joy is only there because we’re each jockeying for position against each other.
The stakes are there only because we are ongoingly creating the stakes with others around us.
We all feel the subconscious need to play the game only because we’re already all subconsciously playing it.
If we all just gave it up, there’d be no need to win.
If we all noticed what we’re doing, and stopped creating the stakes, there’d be no need to even play the game.
We could just be.